I used to ship exclusively f/m until oh....the mid aughts, I think. I actually actively disliked non-canonical slash until then.
I'm not sure what exactly caused the shift, but since then I do happen to ship only m/m ships, canonical or not. This is also in part because f/m ships in canon often follow a pattern that just isn't very interesting to me.
However, I did (in the last few years) write genderbent f/m (where one character is canonically male) and I also wrote in the same timeframe another related f/m story. And here's what I found: Writing explicit sex with one party who has my own equipment is incredibly awkward and I don't enjoy it. This gets even more awkward, to me, when both people have the same equipment as I.
I'm generally of the ship and let ship opinion. I do understand that f/f is underrepresented, but I personally also don't read f/f ships, partially for the reasons above, partially because I just don't get women. I've never fit well into the female mould myself and most women in fiction are not presented to not fit that mould, so why would I bother with them fictionally. Now, as I said yesterday, the older I get the less I care about writing or reading explicit sex - let them kiss and cuddle, but I've been pretty tired of tab a in slot b for a decade already, unfortunately that's what draws readership and some fics need it for relationship dynamic reasons as well - so this may shift again. But I'm not sure.
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Date: 2023-01-22 09:33 am (UTC)I'm not sure what exactly caused the shift, but since then I do happen to ship only m/m ships, canonical or not. This is also in part because f/m ships in canon often follow a pattern that just isn't very interesting to me.
However, I did (in the last few years) write genderbent f/m (where one character is canonically male) and I also wrote in the same timeframe another related f/m story. And here's what I found: Writing explicit sex with one party who has my own equipment is incredibly awkward and I don't enjoy it. This gets even more awkward, to me, when both people have the same equipment as I.
I'm generally of the ship and let ship opinion. I do understand that f/f is underrepresented, but I personally also don't read f/f ships, partially for the reasons above, partially because I just don't get women. I've never fit well into the female mould myself and most women in fiction are not presented to not fit that mould, so why would I bother with them fictionally. Now, as I said yesterday, the older I get the less I care about writing or reading explicit sex - let them kiss and cuddle, but I've been pretty tired of tab a in slot b for a decade already, unfortunately that's what draws readership and some fics need it for relationship dynamic reasons as well - so this may shift again. But I'm not sure.