Hm, I like the idea of a skin that hides all of that! Not sure I need something like that because I haven't actually received any comments yet...but maybe in the future.

As a newcomer to this world, it does seem like it can get kind of tricky to balance the desire to do your own thing/pursue perhaps idiosyncratic passions with the desire to be part of a community, as well as the desire to win the Flattery game. I can imagine the scales tipping between those things pretty frequently. Hope you find a good balance!