"I WANT fandom friends, but they have to be extremely polished, with all the same kinks and ships as me, and they can't EVER write this character with long hair or this character with his canonical accent or this one smiling or this one as a bad cook--"

Oh my godddd they sound absolutely insufferable. Not the way to encourage feedback or win friends and influence people! I mean, I have given, like, a tiny non-zero amount of people no reply l, or a polite but bland reply, because I thought they were actively bigoted or nasty people based on other things I knew of them, but trivial shit like this...